I remember going to my new moms group and all of us were sitting there with our leaky boobs and our red-rimmed eyes with our intensity focused on our little bundles of “joy” and we all wanted to do everything right and the older woman who ran the group said, “Just relax!” and we all thought, “How can we possibly relax?!” and she said, “Well, for starters, forget about the ‘shoulds’ — whenever you hear that word, from yourself or someone else, as in “He should be sleeping more or less” or “I should be more together,” etc., just kindly turn a deaf ear and give yourself some time and focus on what is happening right now.”

It was great advice. I often try to banish “should” thinking from my life, as it brings a lot of stress with it.

Also, I wanted to tell you that in the breastfeeding course I took (I took a six-day training course to become a lactation consultant), I learned that babies don’t start consolidating sleep or other activities until about four months of age. This means that these little ones are often completely erratic and very changeable (and thus very hard to “predict.”)

So I guess I am trying to say that feeling disoriented is normal under the circumstances, and to please remember to be easy on yourself… you say you “timed it wrong” and that you chose the “wrong” bathroom, but try to remember that you (and your hubby and Jonah) are all doing the best you can! And that things will start to clear up sometime… soon-ish.

And then you will be better able to listen to your intuition, which is almost always the best answer to anything, any time, in my opinion.

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