Comments on: guest post: the calm before my stork http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/ Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:19:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Alex Elliot http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/comment-page-1/#comment-1369 Alex Elliot Sat, 05 Jul 2008 02:30:57 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/#comment-1369 I had an unplanned c-section with my first and for a long time I was determined to have a VBAC with any future children. By the time I got pregnant, my new ob advised that I have a c-section because unless I was going to have a 6 pound baby, I would have the same problem I had with my first. After I had my 8 pound 7 ounce son, I realized that a c-section had been the best choice for me even though I had had my doubts about it. <em>Alex Elliot's last blog post..<a href='http://flexibleparenting.com/2008/07/best-birth-control-ever.html' rel="nofollow">The Best Birth Control Ever</a></em> I had an unplanned c-section with my first and for a long time I was determined to have a VBAC with any future children. By the time I got pregnant, my new ob advised that I have a c-section because unless I was going to have a 6 pound baby, I would have the same problem I had with my first. After I had my 8 pound 7 ounce son, I realized that a c-section had been the best choice for me even though I had had my doubts about it.

Alex Elliot’s last blog post..The Best Birth Control Ever

]]> By: margaret http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/comment-page-1/#comment-1346 margaret Sat, 28 Jun 2008 15:07:14 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/#comment-1346 Wow. I know how you feel - my third labor lasted for over 45 hours. But in the end, it doesn't matter what way they entered the world, just as long as they (and you) are happy and healthy! <em>margaret's last blog post..<a href='http://mylife-whirlwind.blogspot.com/2008/06/happy-birth-day-carnival-moe-edition.html' rel="nofollow">Happy Birth Day Carnival - Moe Edition</a></em> Wow. I know how you feel – my third labor lasted for over 45 hours. But in the end, it doesn’t matter what way they entered the world, just as long as they (and you) are happy and healthy!

margaret’s last blog post..Happy Birth Day Carnival – Moe Edition

]]> By: DaMomma http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/comment-page-1/#comment-629 DaMomma Mon, 17 Dec 2007 02:13:56 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/#comment-629 Great post! After my first C-section I felt guilty and sad for a while. Then I followed some advice and took a very scientific approach, having my file reviewed by 2 obstetricians and a nurse-midwife who specializes in natural delivery. They walked through the weeks prior to delivery and the string of decisions that had led to the emergency. All three of them said the C-section was inevitable. All three said I was a bad candidate for a trial of labor the second time. But it was the words of the second OB that really helped me. He said, "Learn to love Cesarians. You are alive because of them." I am alive because of C-sections, and so are these two beautiful little women. Once I could view a cesarian in a positive light, I could start easing up on myself and realizing what an infinitesmally small portion of my life the birth really was. It just didn't matter much. Not like actual parenting matters. Great post! After my first C-section I felt guilty and sad for a while. Then I followed some advice and took a very scientific approach, having my file reviewed by 2 obstetricians and a nurse-midwife who specializes in natural delivery. They walked through the weeks prior to delivery and the string of decisions that had led to the emergency. All three of them said the C-section was inevitable. All three said I was a bad candidate for a trial of labor the second time.

But it was the words of the second OB that really helped me. He said, “Learn to love Cesarians. You are alive because of them.”

I am alive because of C-sections, and so are these two beautiful little women. Once I could view a cesarian in a positive light, I could start easing up on myself and realizing what an infinitesmally small portion of my life the birth really was. It just didn’t matter much. Not like actual parenting matters.

]]> By: mothergoosemouse http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/comment-page-1/#comment-623 mothergoosemouse Sun, 16 Dec 2007 19:53:43 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/#comment-623 Well, you already know my story. But it's much like Katie's - 30+ hours of induced labor, but I never got past 3cm. I was exhausted. And I had never considered that I might have to have a c-section in order to get that baby out. It wasn't a disappointment per se; more like disappointment in myself for having not been better prepared. But I never doubted that I gave it all I had before agreeing to the c-section. Well, you already know my story. But it’s much like Katie’s – 30+ hours of induced labor, but I never got past 3cm. I was exhausted. And I had never considered that I might have to have a c-section in order to get that baby out.

It wasn’t a disappointment per se; more like disappointment in myself for having not been better prepared. But I never doubted that I gave it all I had before agreeing to the c-section.

]]> By: Katie http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/comment-page-1/#comment-620 Katie Sun, 16 Dec 2007 14:34:57 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/16/the-calm-before-my-stork/#comment-620 Isn't it funny how we can second guess ourselves after going through something that difficult? I went through 31 hours of induced labor before my c-section (I actually made it to the pushing stage, but he was big and posterior). I knew that I did what I could, but it was still hard since I thought it was my only chance (because of infertility). I did do the VBAC the second time but, of course, it didn't make me any more of a mother. We get so wrapped up in planning things out of our control sometimes that we loose perspective. I'm glad you got yours back--I think a lot of women never do, which is unfortunate for them. Great post! Isn’t it funny how we can second guess ourselves after going through something that difficult? I went through 31 hours of induced labor before my c-section (I actually made it to the pushing stage, but he was big and posterior). I knew that I did what I could, but it was still hard since I thought it was my only chance (because of infertility). I did do the VBAC the second time but, of course, it didn’t make me any more of a mother.

We get so wrapped up in planning things out of our control sometimes that we loose perspective. I’m glad you got yours back–I think a lot of women never do, which is unfortunate for them.

Great post!

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