Comments on: from wretch to angel (conclusion): where’s the angel part? http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/ Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:19:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Leila Abu-Saba http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-2633 Leila Abu-Saba Fri, 12 Jun 2009 03:14:15 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-2633 I missed this when it first came out... I was in chemo so I guess I just bailed on blog reading for a while? I don't remember it at all. I do remember how hungry my firstborn was and how the lactation consultant and all the books made me feel so incredibly frightened about feeding him formula. I did so many things to try to get him to nurse for 100% of his calorise. Didn't work. Those feeding tubes on the nipples SIX TIMES A DAY followed by pumping. We finger fed him for a while to "suck-train" him. Oh god. I was desperate. And people were telling me that I was doing it wrong somehow - should be formula feeding him, should not be desperate, should be nursing him, etc. I went to craniosacral therapists (two of them) to try to "fix" his nursing. Ak In the end I said screw it, I can't do this feeding tube thing (the surgical tape hurt my breasts when I had to rip it off - 3 or 4x a day). If he ends up not breastfeeding, then so be it. He breast fed for one year, three months into my second pregnancy. He also drank formula by the gallon, staggering all my friends. He has a genetic overgrowth syndrome, he's enormous, he had weak mouth muscles and a high arched palate. He was hungry and his little face could not generate the strength to make me produce enough milk. I also remember exactly the same confusing thing in the hospital. Ak. Well thank you for sharing all this, love. Didn't it all turn out fine in the end! He's terrific, and you are too! (and remember, the experts are usually wrong) I missed this when it first came out… I was in chemo so I guess I just bailed on blog reading for a while? I don’t remember it at all.

I do remember how hungry my firstborn was and how the lactation consultant and all the books made me feel so incredibly frightened about feeding him formula. I did so many things to try to get him to nurse for 100% of his calorise. Didn’t work. Those feeding tubes on the nipples SIX TIMES A DAY followed by pumping. We finger fed him for a while to “suck-train” him. Oh god. I was desperate. And people were telling me that I was doing it wrong somehow – should be formula feeding him, should not be desperate, should be nursing him, etc. I went to craniosacral therapists (two of them) to try to “fix” his nursing. Ak
In the end I said screw it, I can’t do this feeding tube thing (the surgical tape hurt my breasts when I had to rip it off – 3 or 4x a day). If he ends up not breastfeeding, then so be it.

He breast fed for one year, three months into my second pregnancy. He also drank formula by the gallon, staggering all my friends. He has a genetic overgrowth syndrome, he’s enormous, he had weak mouth muscles and a high arched palate. He was hungry and his little face could not generate the strength to make me produce enough milk.

I also remember exactly the same confusing thing in the hospital. Ak.
Well thank you for sharing all this, love. Didn’t it all turn out fine in the end! He’s terrific, and you are too!
(and remember, the experts are usually wrong)

]]> By: the calm before the stork » revisiting our birth story: football, popsicle, and baby http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-2631 the calm before the stork » revisiting our birth story: football, popsicle, and baby Fri, 12 Jun 2009 02:02:48 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-2631 [...] From Wretch to Angel, the Conclusion… [...] [...] From Wretch to Angel, the Conclusion… [...]

]]> By: maggie, dammit http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-1829 maggie, dammit Thu, 25 Sep 2008 00:53:27 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-1829 You did it! And you did great, girl! Congrats! :) You did it! And you did great, girl! Congrats! :)

]]> By: Tzipporah http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-504 Tzipporah Wed, 05 Dec 2007 22:54:13 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-504 Found you through DaMomma. Congratulations!! And try not to drive yourself crazy - you were NOT "starving" your baby. You were giving him all the love, attention, and nourishment you knew how to give. You were being a GREAT mother! Besides, you'll get to replay this whole thing when he's fifteen, and you realize that on roast chicken really isn't enough for dinner. Not if you and your husband also want to eat. :) Found you through DaMomma.

Congratulations!! And try not to drive yourself crazy – you were NOT “starving” your baby. You were giving him all the love, attention, and nourishment you knew how to give. You were being a GREAT mother!

Besides, you’ll get to replay this whole thing when he’s fifteen, and you realize that on roast chicken really isn’t enough for dinner. Not if you and your husband also want to eat. :)

]]> By: Reluctant Blogger http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-496 Reluctant Blogger Tue, 04 Dec 2007 16:31:04 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-496 Awww well done! It's weird reading that - it brought back stuff I had long forgotten. It's amazing how quickly you forget what that crying does to you - how it just grips you inside. I love the way you write. And amazing to think you can write like that on so little sleep!!! Awww well done! It’s weird reading that – it brought back stuff I had long forgotten. It’s amazing how quickly you forget what that crying does to you – how it just grips you inside.
I love the way you write. And amazing to think you can write like that on so little sleep!!!

]]> By: Rachel http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/comment-page-1/#comment-494 Rachel Tue, 04 Dec 2007 16:21:36 +0000 http://thecalmbeforethestork.com/2007/12/04/from-wretch-to-angel-conclusion-wheres-the-angel-part/#comment-494 Bless your heart! No matter how many times we/they/them do it, every baby is different and every one comes with a HUGE learning curve. Glad y'all figured it out. It's amazing once the horns disappear how much we realize we love these little monkeys! Good luck on your fabulous new adventure and OUCH to 24 hours of labor! Lovin' your page. Bless your heart! No matter how many times we/they/them do it, every baby is different and every one comes with a HUGE learning curve. Glad y’all figured it out. It’s amazing once the horns disappear how much we realize we love these little monkeys!
Good luck on your fabulous new adventure and OUCH to 24 hours of labor!
Lovin’ your page.

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